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More Notes on Thriving During Chaos…

Learning about deliberate creation and how to manifest was not an easy journey for me. I have to be honest and confess that I quit “the program” a lot.

I joke sometimes that I am a slow learner because I seem to make the same mistakes (or at least a variation on a theme) over and over again.

I used to think that maybe I was doomed and that some people can manifest better than me.

Can you relate?

When I looked to my teachers and mentors, I was often discouraged because they all seemed to say that this intentional way of life is easy and once you “get it”, only good things happen to you.

Oh, how I wanted that “perfect” life where only good flowed to me.

There was a point about three years ago when I think I hit critical mass and I experienced “overnight” success (preceded by 12 hard years of preparation and study.) The flow of “good” rained down on me every day and I was and am so very, very grateful for all the blessings I have received.

When I embarked on my journey as a teacher, I committed to being brutally honest with my students about the bumps in the road of life. Living an abundant life is simple, but not always easy.

I am shocked sometimes when people express deep gratitude to me for letting them know that I’m human and I have crappy days.

So, just to make this very clear, let me state strongly that I, just like everyone, have crappy days…(even months, if you want to know the truth.)

Challenging and unpredictable things happen to me.

I promise, I’m having a human experience 24 hours a day.

In the course of the last three years I lost the love of my life, had a couple of very difficult relationships, had some tight financial moments, struggled with my youngest son who hates school and got pregnant (very) unexpectedly at 43 years of age.

I am 38 weeks pregnant. In the last week I was informed that I need to move out of my rental house by the end of May, my baby’s father is leaving unexpectedly for China just days before my due date for nine weeks, I’ve decided to move to Texas and my assistant/best friend is going to Austria for six weeks so I will be running my business alone.

But is this “bad”?

No, not at all.

And understanding that this is not “bad” is the real secret to abundant success.

You see, what I think a lot of teachers don’t share so effectively with you is this: “Bad” things will always happen to you. They have to. We need the contrast between “good” and “bad” experiences to grow and deepen our clarity and our capacity to create.

When you understand the “bad”, it just doesn’t seem so “bad”. In fact, what you come to understand is that it is truly All Good and your challenges are merely Points of Evolution.

Life is all about vibration. A vibrational wave has ups and downs. A flat-lined vibrational wave is death. (Think about a heart monitor in the hospital. Flat lines are not a good sign…)

A vibrant life will always have ups and downs.

When we get slammed with the unexpected and challenging, we often ask ourselves the wrong questions. Shaking our fists at the heavens and asking questions like:

Why me?
Why this now?
Why does this always happen?

These questions never get you to that deeper place of understanding. Adopting a victim pose does nothing to help you use your challenges as Points of Evolution.

Instead, recognizing that the dips in your Life Vibration are there to help you grow and increase your awareness of what you intend, and help you navigate your way through the pain and the chaos.

What if instead of despairing and disparaging questions, you instead ask yourself this one very important question:

What do I want to be experiencing in this situation?

This one powerful question helps you gain clarity and immediately shifts your focus and attention towards the positive solution to the situation.

Remember, where you put your energy and attention is where you get growth and results in your life.

If you are focusing on the pain and suffering rather than your desired outcome, then guess what you will create more of in your life?

(Hint: It’s not “good”)

But if you, instead, focus on what you want, imagine the creative possibilities you are projecting forth into the Universe!

Of course, there’s a little more to this whole equation.

Answering the question of what you want is pretty easy. We usually know what we want. At the very least, we certainly know what we don’t want, which is a good place to start.

But once you’ve clarified what you want, you have to take some kind of action to create it.

Now, action can be a tricky word. It doesn’t always mean physically doing something. Action can be as simple as getting your head screwed on right by changing your mindset or adjusting your belief system.

It’s not enough to just fantasize about what could be. You have to start creating in the direction in which you intend.

So, for example, let’s look at my imperfect, perfect life.

My baby’s father is headed to China right before my due date. (BTW, he’s not a cad or a heal. It is just too good of an opportunity to pass up and he tried to push the date back as far as possible. I support him going even though I hate it.)

Step 1. (This happened two days after I released a lot of self-pity and whining…)
I asked myself the question: What would I like to be experiencing in this situation?

My answer: I want to feel safe and supported as I bring this new person into the world. I want to be cared for, loved and nurtured and to have the freedom to focus exclusively on the birthing process and to know that all is well.

(Once I completed this step, I realized that a lot of my intention is self-referenced anyway. Feeling safe and supported is my responsibility and I can certainly create that in my own experience and these are feelings that are not dependent on others.)

Step 2. The Action Part

In order to have the experience I choose, I need to take a couple of steps:

1. Visualize and meditate on my birth experience happening exactly as I intend.

2. Call my friends and family and find other people who are willing to be present with me during labor.

There are other actions I can take as well. They are not known to me at this time but I trust that they will be revealed to me as necessary.

3. Consciously stay in a mindset of positive expectation and trust that all is in Divine Order, even if it doesn’t all make sense to me right now. I know that this will pass and in hindsight, the bigger picture will be revealed.

4. Stay excited about meeting my baby. (This part isn’t hard!)

Lastly, in order to keep focusing on your creative intention, it is important that you look for evidence that what you want is already in your life right now.

So for example, I want to feel supported. I’m already being beautifully supported:

-Every day people who love me call me and check on me.
-My mother is coming to stay with me for two weeks.
-My father is coming to help me move in June.
-My kids have been super about helping out around the house.
-I have a really great midwife who I trust and feel safe with.

And for all this I am deeply grateful.

Let’s review these steps one more time so we can all practice together today!

Ready?

Step One: Ask yourself what you want to be experiencing in this situation.

Step Two: Take any action necessary to make this come about and continue to focus on your intention.

Step Three: Search for evidence that your intentions are already true in your life and express your gratitude.

You may not be able to change the situation at hand, but by taking these simple steps, you will begin to immediately change your experience of the situation and position yourself to experience exactly what you intend and even greater miracles!

May all of your challenges become powerful Points of Evolution. May you celebrate your growth with great joy and delight. May you greet each moment with eager anticipation and stay in the flow of your Abundant Birthright!

It’s All Good!

Love,
Karen

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6 Responses to “More Notes on Thriving During Chaos…”

Lorraine Peck Says:
April 14th, 2009 at 5:29 pm
Hi Karen:

SPOT ON! AND - it arrived in my inbox at exactly the right day and right time of day!
With Heartfelt Thanks -:)
Catherine Kane Says:
April 14th, 2009 at 5:40 pm
Karen,
My,you are going through things all at once. Am sending my good wishes to you,although I’m not sure if you need them or not.
I liked your approach to facing “challenging times”. You’re neither pretending that everything is good( some things just aren’t,although good things can come out of them) nor being immobolized by your challenges. Instead, you’re taking on what seems to me an extremely healthy and resiliant mindset that’s going to help you cope and thrive with whatever comes.
I’m going to have to think on this…
C
Erika Harris Says:
April 14th, 2009 at 5:57 pm
Karen,

I’ve been enjoying your inspiring, empowering information for the past several months, and I *deeply* appreciate how authentic you are. The kind of transparency and genuine strength you share is so rare and beautiful.

But this post takes the cake.

My Grandma always said, “I can show you better than I can tell you.” From the bottom of my heart, I thank you for SHOWING us how to apply these high-vibe principles in the midst of challenging circumstances.

One thing I’m certain of: your soon-coming baby is one smart cookie. Look at the Majestic Mother s/he chose!

With Love,
Erika Harris, Creator
Joyful Work for Sensitive People
Sandra Says:
April 14th, 2009 at 6:11 pm
Karen,
Thank you for the great way of explaining the process of attraction.
I understand what you are going through as I gave birth without my husband but was perfectly supported by my mother and best friend.

I have had supernatural support throughout my life when I remembered to stay in the mind set that all is well and I have what is needed to get through it perfectly.

At the moment, life is filled with such challenges for millions and your words will resonate to help them move through them with peace and ease.

Thank you!
S
Pat Mazzola Says:
April 14th, 2009 at 6:23 pm
Thanks, Karen

Appreciate the reminder and pep talk. Many blessing to you on this final stage of the birth journey. Can’t wait to see pics of the baby!

Pat
Grace Lobermier Says:
April 14th, 2009 at 8:11 pm
Hi Karen,
I am so happy to be back in touch with you (from 2002) and be able to share this beautiful experience of your expecting the wonderful gift of a baby. I am happy that you are so open and honest with your life. I believe it is important to let everyone know that we all have what we consider “bad” times. Look up to the heavens and give praises and we will see the beauty that is coming down to us. Life is beautiful and is there for the taking.
You are the same Karen I knew before. Don’t ever change.
God bless you and your family and I will keep you in my prayers.
Love you,
Grace

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