Healing Your Belief Codes…
Saturday, January 31st, 2009A few years ago, I still bumped into a lot of nay-sayers and people who accepted the premise that we are blind victims of our fate.
I am so grateful for the movie “The Secret” and the incredible impact it has had on our collective consciousness. It certainly has made my job a lot easier! Isn’t it nice how we can now have open conversations about the Law of Attraction with our neighbors?
Woo Hoo!
If you keep up with quantum physics and even new psychological studies, we are continuing to gather scientific evidence that our thoughts, emotions and beliefs are the “magic wands” that create our outer reality.
But it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to review your personal life experience for you to see that your consistent thought patterns (beliefs) have created the life you are now living.
If we are honest with ourselves, it’s pretty easy to see how our mindset and expectations (good or bad) have deeply influenced our lives.
Our beliefs about ourselves, our bodies, our relationships, our finances, our value, etc. are the “programs” or “codes” that run the “Universal Computer” that creates the circumstances leading to our experience of our outer (and inner) reality.
And making changes in those belief codes has a noticeable impact on our life.
It’s simple, although not always easy.
What if you cognitively understand these principles, apply them diligently and are still struggling to see the results you are intending?
If this is your experience, I promise you, you’re not alone.
If you’re feeling stuck or you seem to have a pattern of creation in your life that you just can’t seem to break, it’s important to remember that your Soul has a higher intention than you may be aware of.
Our prime directive as Light Beings is to grow and evolve. We are always seeking to expand out experiences and ultimately live the unlimited experiences of higher dimensions while being in third dimensional form.
In other words, while we are having a human experience, our souls are working hard to master the experience of living in heaven while being here Earth.
It’s just a little harder to do that here because we have to move the mud with our hands for now.
And we live in a very influential conditioning field that begins to impact us emotionally, spiritually and even physically three months before we are even born.
But, here’s the cool part, we are never “stuck” in mysterious ways that we can’t figure out. You never create a reality that you don’t have the keys to change.
The answer is always sitting right in front of you. You just have to know how to interpret it.
If our minds and beliefs are the codes that run the projection of our reality, then the answer to being “stuck” is in our reality. Our world is always dancing with us in an eternal feedback loop.
Everything you see, hear, smell, touch and taste is a reflection of your belief codes.
And everything we experience is simply a metaphor for our core beliefs.
Your experiences with money, relationships, physical wellness, creative fulfillment, etc, are all out-picturings of your inner belief code and, although you can work significantly on your specific beliefs about money, love, health, etc,, this is usually just a superficial layer on your “spiritual onion”.
You may see some improvements by working on these beliefs but you will probably have to go deeper to maintain a more consistent experience of your unlimited birthright.
It’s pretty common to make some improvement only to find, after a certain time, that the issue revisits your life, perhaps in a different format.
**IMPORTANT POINT** If this is happening to you, YOU HAVE NOT SCREWED UP NOR ARE YOU SCREWED UP!
Your deepest intention in life is to grow and evolve. You created this next cycle to help yourself heal and grow on a deeper level. You’re just peeling back another layer on your “spiritual onion”.
At the root of all of your beliefs is the belief about yourself as an unlimited child of G-d. In the ultimate third dimensional life experience we can transcend all the perceived limits of the third dimension including time and space. In theory, we can manifest apples or chocolate out of thin air, walk on water and time travel, if we believe we can.
But, for most of us, our belief code anchors us solidly here in our third dimensional reality. Only a few, highly-evolved mystics have reached this level of transcending the collective belief codes.
But, that doesn’t mean that we can’t make miracles and magical living a part of our everyday life.
But in order to transcend to the next level, you have to know how to understand the “movie” of your life that is currently playing in your reality and how to translate this movie into information that will help you heal your belief code and deepen your understanding of yourself as an unlimited being.
Ready?
At the root of all of our limiting beliefs are three primary “wounds”. (I’m calling them wounds because I am using a healing metaphor. They are not so much wounds as they are mistaken beliefs or fears.)
1. G-d is separate from me and something outside of myself. G-d has abandoned me.
2. I’m not valuable, worthy, etc (even G-d has abandoned me).
3. I don’t trust G-d. (If I surrender control of this situation, who knows what awful thing may happen…I must seek the logical answer.)
(If you struggle with the term G-d, replace it with whatever word/s work for you.)
Healing these core wounds is a class and a book unto itself. (If you’d like to work on these issues, then please join me next Monday, February 9 at 8:00 pm for the Inside The Body of God 10-week teleclass. For more information, click here or cut and paste into your browser: http://www.insidethebodyofgod.com/courses.html)
If you have an intention to heal these wounds, you will create opportunities for you to grow and evolve quickly. Truthfully, it can feel like a scary ride in the beginning but if you are ready, I encourage you to embark on this journey with great anticipation and delight. This is truly the most fulfilling and rewarding path you can take in this lifetime (In my humble opinion.)
Here is a nice little affirmation to send you on your way:
I am fully supported, limitlessly abundant, deeply loved, and a perfect channel for Divine Creative Power. As a Child of G-d, I am valuable and all of my actions and beliefs reflect that value. I share this understanding with all others who I meet knowing that all of my Divine Siblings are also Unlimited Children of my Creator. I place my hands in
G-d’s hands each morning and trust that all of my thoughts, actions and words are Divinely Guided. I know that this act of supreme surrender each moment aligns me with my Divine Birthright of Abundance in all areas and I receive and give perfectly in Divine Order.
You don’t have to do much detective work to discover how these beliefs (and others) are playing out in your outer reality. Every relationship we have is the perfect mirror for your beliefs.
Now, I struggled with this one mightily for a while because I was attracting people into my life who didn’t seem to be mirrors of me. In fact, in some ways, they seemed to be the opposite!
Your relationships won’t be perfect mirrors. But they will reflect certain aspects of your belief code. Every thing in your life is basically a relationship and a great way for you to gain awareness of your belief code.
There are five ways that we can interpret our relationships:
1. Our relationships are the mirror of where we are currently with our earthly beliefs. This is the reflection of the “first layer” of your spiritual onion.
So for example, if you have a belief that you have to work hard to create abundance, you may have relationships with your job, partner, friends, children, or even your body, that requires that you have to work hard to get results.
2. Our relationships are mirrors of what we judge, in others and often even in ourselves.
Let’s say you have a judgment about people who seem to have no direction in their life. You may find that you are knee-deep in relationships (and feeling very frustrated about) with people who are struggling for direction.
You might find that in these relationships you feel rather smug about your own very clear, very defined life purpose and you want to “help” your friends and loved ones find their direction, even if they’re perfectly find with their “flow-ey” lifestyle.
3. Our relationships are mirrors of our broken-ness.
Often we are in relationships with things or people who reflect our wounds in life. How many friends do you have with similar life stories or experiences?
Sometimes this will also manifest as relationships with people who have similar qualities as the people we perceive to have originally injured us. This is why we are often attracted to partners and friends who end up behaving like our family of origin. We love it. It feels familiar. But we hate it at the same time.
When we heal our original belief codes, we find that we begin to create a whole different kind of relationship that is new, refreshing and unfamiliar.
4. Our relationships are mirrors of our greatest fears.
How many times has a relationship turned into your worst fear or nightmare?
For example, if you have a fear of being abandoned, how many times have friends and partners abandoned you in the worst possible way? Of course, it brings up the belief that “people always abandon me”.
But, each abandonment is really you creating a situation for yourself to finally heal the abandonment issue.
This is the beauty of our Soul’s intention. We are not destined or doomed to repeat the same cycles. We create these cycles because we are trying to get our own attention and finally move ourselves into a place of healing, not repetitive suffering.
5. Our relationships are reflections of our greatest acts of love. (See, there is something good and uplifting here, too!)
Love is all around us, even in our “worse” relationships. You just have to be sure to notice those good moments as well. Sometimes the “bad” in a relationship blocks us from seeing the good. In reality, there is far more good than bad always. Staying in relationship is really more a question of vibrational alignment than the weight of “good” vs. “bad” experiences.
I have created some writing exercises for you to help you understand exactly what your relationships are telling you and to help you realign these relationships with a belief code that reflects your Divine Birthright of Abundance.
1. Start by picking a relationship in your life that is currently giving you some challenges.
2. How is this relationship a reflection of your current belief code?
How can you rewrite this code to align it with your Divine Abundance?
3. Is there anything about this relationship that is showing me pieces of myself that I feel are broken or lost?
4. Is there anything about this relationship or this person that you judge?
How can you rewrite this code to align with your Divine Abundance?
5. Is there anything about this relationship that is triggering and experience of a deep fear for you?
How can you rewrite this fear to align with your Divine Abundance?
6. It there anything about this relationship that is reflecting love back to you?
Express your gratitude for the love.
Here’s an example.
Let’s say you have a pattern of creating relationships with partners who struggle to commit to the relationship and that you want, very much, to have a long-term committed partnership and get married.
And, let’s also say that you are currently experiencing one of these relationships with a man who you think you love very much but you are experiencing pain and frustration because the relationship isn’t moving forward and your partner still flirts with other women and is very busy with his work.
1. How is this relationship a reflection of my current belief code?
I don’t believe that men will stick around. My Dad traveled all my life and was always gone. I always felt unloved and abandoned, especially when he was away traveling on special holidays like my birthday. I felt like he didn’t care about me and that I wasn’t worth his time. His work and adventures were more important to him than me.
Turning it around:
There are committed men on the planet. Several of my girlfriends have great husbands who love them dearly. It’s possible for a man to commit.
I am worthy of a commitment and because I have this desire, it is, by nature already fulfilled. I just need to trust that a man who is wanting to commit to me is on his way. All I have to do is to stay open, trust and know that my desire is being fulfilled. I am a good and loving partner and I know that the perfect relationship is coming to me.
I am a perfect partner and worthy of love and being cherished.
(You can, of course, use EFT or any other healing modality to help you rewrite your belief code.)
2. Is there anything about this relationship that you judge?
I hate people who can’t make up their minds. They drive me crazy. Pick one thing and stick to it, I say.
Turning it around:
There are those who are here to be committed and enjoy commitment. There are others who are here to soak up and savor each moment and who feel free outside of the confines of committed relationships. This is normal.
In an unlimited Universe where each one of us is an individual expression of multiple ways of thinking and being, some of us will find freedom in being non-committal and some of us find freedom in responsibility and commitment. It’s cool that we have so many choices of how to show up.
It’s all just a choice and neither is right or wrong. Just different.
And I choose to attract commitment. It works for me.
3. Is this relationship showing me what is broken or feels lost?
Sometimes I struggle with my responsibilities. They feel heavy and exhausting, even though I love them. I seem to attract partners who reflect a certain sense of unattached freedom that I think I sometimes miss.
Turning it around:
I need to honor myself with more time off and personal care. How can I expect someone to care for me and cherish me if I’m not willing to do the same for myself?
4. Is this relationship triggering a great fear?
Hell, yeah! I am terrified of being alone. I’d rather hang out in a relationship that is a compromise than to be alone.
Turning it around:
I am strong and capable and enjoy my own company. I am valuable enough to attract and wait for what I truly want rather than settle for pain and frustration. My own time and company is delicious and delightful and when I am aligned with the magnificence of who I am and what I truly desire, I don’t have to allow the pain of compromise.
I trust G-d and know that I am fully supported. The source of all my good is within me and a partner complements that in me. I don’t have to bend or change to try to convince someone that I am what they want. They either know it or they don’t. If they don’t then they are not the one for me.
5. Is there anything about this relationship that reflects love back at me.
Yes, yes and yes. In the context of this relationship I have experienced deep moments of feeling cherished and appreciated.
I choose to focus on these moments knowing that they are signposts on my journey that are showing me that the love I am seeking is on it’s way and in the meantime, I am remembering that I am love, I am loving and I am worthy of receiving great love.
Use these exercises to uncover anything in your belief code that needs healing. Again, I recommend using EFT (the Emotional Freedom Techniques) to help heal these codes.
If you’d like to learn more, go deeper and heal your belief code with support and with the love of a like-minded community, I encourage you to join me next Monday, February 9 for my “Inside the Body of God” 10-week teleclass. For more information click here:
http://www.insidethebodyofgod.com/courses.html
Here’s what some of my graduates from my last class said about their experience:
“The exercises are opening up in me an awareness of thought processes that I have been holding that hold me back. WOW! Thank you so much!”
~D.S.
“I’m so excited to have finally found someone who not only understands but can verbally express and expound on what I have innately known for years but couldn’t totally figure out how to make it work in my life.. That’s the key word, isn’t it? “work” - it isn’t work at all. Yet, my attitude has always been “work”. The frustration of it all - I have unconsciously manifested accidents and become ill at ease (cancer).”
~V.S.
“This is a wonderful program. It’s EXACTLY what I’ve been praying for for a while now. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.”
~B.R.
“Karen is an inspiration and beats the drum of a brisk pace while being watchful not to leave anyone by the wayside. Karen provides solid curriculum, with clarity and spontaneity. I have also observed Karen growing, right along with us. Her new offering, Inside the Body of God, is a quantum leap for us all and really puts things in perspective.”
~J.M.
“Karen brings such a playful inviting energy to this profound information that it makes it easy to integrate in your life and raise your level of consciousness. This has very quickly helped me make far more sense out of the many things I have studied in the past. I loved the part about each of us being our own unique perfect “cells”. When each of us plays our individual perfect parts, and we don’t try to be anything we’re not, we can truly help make this world the best it can be.”
~ Eric Owens
If you can’t join us for this life-changing class, you can also order my book: “Inside The Body Of God.” To order, click here:
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I hope these exercises have helped you. Remember, you are an Unlimited Child of G-d and you are here to thrive and savor each moment of life!
Love,
Karen